Why is your pattern on a loop? Here's the answer.

First, your stuck pattern has been triggered. 

Being stuck is a loop of expansion and contraction that is rooted in a genuinely clever survival strategy that you developed as a child. 

What triggers the pattern can be highly personal to you or it can be the result of a collective trigger. The pandemic is an example of a collective trigger that activated the stuck patterns of many people. 

Your life purpose is often in direct tension with your core wound! (Funny how that happens...) For example, your life's work might be teaching people to tap into their inner knowing as a source of creativity, but your trigger is about being rejected for revealing your authentic self.  As a result,  you may find that your attempts to share your work are constantly triggering your fear of being rejected. 

Your stuck pattern is directly related to your core wound. 

Core wounds usually originate in birth or early childhood, but not just because you were harmed or injured. Suffering happens. But a lasting trauma results from an inability of the nervous system to fully discharge the impact of the harm. In other words, your natural reflexes were suppressed or interrupted, and/or the caregiving relationships that would have helped you discharge and heal any injury were inadequate, insufficient, or harmful.

A core wound does not have to look like a big trauma. For example, perhaps you felt loved by your parents and had your basic needs met as a child, but the stress in your household meant that you felt you had to suppress your emotions in order to feel safe. This was a wise strategy to prevent your authentic self from being harmed. AND, this created a pattern in your nervous system that will arise anytime you are trying to express your authentic self but feel insecure about how you will be received.  

The mechanism that created your core wound is also the reason it is on repeat.

Your pattern is stuck, but it is not trying to harm you. It is simply repeating the pattern in an attempt to complete the healing movement that was suppressed or interrupted. This is what makes healing possible and the reason we can look upon these patterns with compassion.

Being stuck = energy stuck in your nervous system.

Although this may seem like a simplistic understanding, it really is that simple. What you experience as "being stuck" in the world is directly connected to energy stuck within your nervous system as a result of your core wound. 

This is also why mental or spiritual understanding, and any healing that does not address the nervous system, does not work. 

Your nervous system cannot be reasoned with. It just needs to be safe to complete its expression.

With this understanding, healing is not only possible, but it is also beautifully simple and miraculously powerful. 

This is how healing happens: by discharging the stuck energy in your nervous system a little bit at a time, while supported in a safe, secure frame held by a warm listener. 

Dear One,

HEALING IS YOUR BIRTHRIGHT. It is what you are designed to do.

The fact that the pattern is showing up again is the brilliant way that your body and nervous system say:

I am ready. This is another chance. Let's heal this now!